Why Embrace Being Alone

Why Embrace Being Alone

Being alone has always been portrayed in society as something to avoid. If we were ever alone at school, we worried about being branded “loners.” If we didn’t have lots of friends, we were seen as lame. If we didn’t participate in lots of activities and clubs, we were...
You Are Not Your Thoughts

You Are Not Your Thoughts

If you’ve ever wished you could take your brain out and give it a good scrubbing, you aren’t alone. Our brains seem to enjoy tormenting us with perceived problems so that we can spend the time to “fix” them. From criticizing your diet and sociability, to commenting on...
Developing Resilience After Religion

Developing Resilience After Religion

What does it take to be considered “resilient”? Is it being able to keep a cool head when things don’t go according to plan? Is it laughing off challenges? Is it simply bouncing back when life knocks you down? I’m learning it’s all of those things. It’s being able to...
Letting Go of Control

Letting Go of Control

As a woman who has left religion, learning to let go of control has been one of my biggest challenges yet. I grew up with the Mormon God, and the Mormon God had a big list of rules to follow if you wanted to ascend to the highest kingdom. While a member, I was...
You Are Only Responsible For Yourself

You Are Only Responsible For Yourself

Any woman who grew up with siblings has known what it feels like to be a mother-figure. Even if our siblings were older, if we were the only female, we were the little mother of the house. As young women, we became our mother’s helper. Taking care of the house, of the...
Setting Healthy Boundaries After Religion

Setting Healthy Boundaries After Religion

Religion teaches women that being accommodating, agreeable, and easy to work with are respectable traits. What they forget to tell you, is how these are traits encouraged in mainly women because they want women to be the people-pleasing good girls their religious...