I’m Shelby!
Holistic wellness Guide & Sacred Space Facilitator
I’m so happy you’re here!
Your Sister.
Your Ally.
Your fellow phoenix.
I’m Shelby – your compassionate neighborhood Sacred Space Holder! I’m also a writer, teacher, holistic health educator and practitioner, psychonaut, eco-therapeutic guide, and Ex-Mormon. And I’d love to hold sacred space for you to become your most authentic, empowered self.
I specialize in creating virtual and in-person sacred spaces for adults seeking connection to their core self – the open, curious, confident, compassionate, and creative inner self. I do this by providing a loving, safe space for you to drop your armor, feel your feelings, and connect to your truth. You are not broken, and therefore require no fixing, only awakening. I am here to assist you in waking up to your own healing potential so you can grow into the unique, empowered, and sovereign being you are.
The loving and sacred spaces I facilitate are meant to encourage greater self-awareness as well as allow the processing of emotions & experiences. Let me help you connect to your truest self, the one beneath the programming, indoctrination, and childhood survival tactics. I believe we are our own healers and I want to give you the space and tools to not just heal wounds, but discover the gold they hold so you can truly thrive!
My Studied Modalities
Methods I Use To Facilitate Sacred Spaces
I believe we are capeable of self-healing and that only we know what we need to thrive. I believe through self-awareness, self-love, and mindfulness, we can radically transform into the people we want to be. It is my goal to help others heal themselves, and become their truest version, by facilitating the opportunity for their inner light to shine and by offering individual space holding. I’ve studied a variety of modalities of self-healing, covering mind, body, and spirit. I take from East and West, leaning on evidence-based practices specifically, while understanding the power of belief.
I am not a therapist and make no claims to offer official “therapy,” though my offerings often feel “therapeutic” in nature. My offerings, from circles, to courses, to 1-on-1 space holding, are all with the goal of giving you the tools to connect with your highest self. In particular, I believe non-ordinary states of consciousness, where your intuitive, playful, and loving self can come out forth, are wildly underestimate when it comes to self-healing . Regardless of modality, my goal is to nurture this authentic inner light to come forward to help you on your journey to wholeness.
BODY
Holistic Nutrition
Holistic Pain Management
Planetary Herbalism
Aromatherapy
Intuitive Dance
Sound Healing
Qi Gong
Somatic Embodiment
MIND
Internal Family Systems (Parts Work)
EFT/TFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)
Laughter Yoga
Professional Relaxation
East-West Mindfulness
Yoga Nidra
Goal Setting & Life Balance
Life Story Coaching
SPIRIT
Inner Child/Shadow Work
Shinrin Yoku (Forest Bathing)
Play Therapy
Expressive Art Therapy
Transpersonal Psychology
Guided Imagery/Visualizations
Sacred Plant Medicine Ceremonies
Religious Trauma
We Must Heal the Inner Child
As children, we were at the mercy of those who protected us. Every action or behavior was in an effort to gain more love because love = survival.
Therefore, every time we felt unloveable (excluded, disciplined, ignored, yelled at, compared to siblings, etc.), we felt unsafe. This survival-mode of childhood resulted in always striving to be, yet never feeling, “good enough.”
Children raised in religion suffered this even more as we were given actual lists of “right” and “wrong” behavior. Everything we were told about ourselves, such as being sinful, we believed. There was no guesswork. Yet there is also not a “good enough” bar in religion – you can always be better.
If we remain ignorant of the origins of our self-beliefs, we will be forever operated by our eternally insecure childhood self. We must wipe the windows to see clearly the beliefs that no longer serve, and carefully plant new, true beliefs.
The fastest, most direct way of doing this is through working with the inner child. It is far and away easier for us to have compassion for an image of our childhood self, than for our adult selves. And since this was the little person who was given these false beliefs and made to feel unlovable, it is only right we work with them. By connecting to our inner child as the capable adults we now are and giving them what they need, we can drop old, false, limiting self-beliefs. Through loving our inner child, we love ourselves. Through loving ourselves, we give ourselves the only thing we ever needed in life, and can then finally cease operating from survival-mode and instead transform into the empowered, sovereign individuals we were meant to be.
Benefits To Working With The Inner Child
Acknowledge (and validate) the child within and the pain it holds onto
Provide (and receive) comfort and healing to yourself (for the first time perhaps)
Remind your child (self) of her value
Offer cathartic cleansing of childhood & generational trauma or pain
Direct access to the subconscious
Heal emotional wounds
- Enhance self-esteem
- See the past with clarity and empathy
- See how you’ve been wounded so you can begin healing
- Understand the ‘why’ behind your habits, patterns, and ways of being
- Awaken joy, curiosity, playfulness, and peace within your own heart
- Become the strong, protective, and providing Mamma Bear to yourself
Non-Ordinary States of Consciousness
The best way to connect to and heal our inner child is by playing in non-ordinary states of consciousness. This could be through play, expressive art or movement/dance, breathwork, lucid dreaming, hypnosis, meditation, visualizations, extended time in nature, psychedelic plant journeys, and more. While I can only legally offer some methods, I value them all and encourage your own exploration of various methods.
We access these states to connect with our highest self, our truest self. It is this higher self that can grant us love, and also receive love, both loving parent and loveable child. It is only through accessing the subconscious that we can become aware of what lives there and have the opportunity to weed out limiting beliefs and plant new ones.
Women’s Circles
Women’s circles are nothing new, but they are very important. They are safe spaces that women can let their guards down, be silly, fall apart, speak their truth, get encouragement, and be truly seen for the individual she is.
Women who’ve left organized high-demand religions, like Mormonism or other forms of Christianity, NEED sisterhood, real sisterhood. They need space to be finally accepted and embraced for who they are. They need space to not be perfect, to process, to get to know themselves. Circles give you this loving space. Your other sisters will really understand you. No more putting on a brave face or trying to be the perfect woman.
All voices are equally valuable at circle. By stepping into your voice, giving words to your truth, you inspire others. We are all on this journey together. It is far better to support your fellow sister so we all rise together, than for us to each struggle on our own in silence.
By attending circle, women not only gain new perspective, process their feelings, and gain support, but they also contribute to other women’s healing in the circle, leading to much bigger consequences we may yet see.
You’re Ready!
If you’ve left organized religion, knowing you deserved better…you’re right.
If you’re over forcing yourself into the perfect mold to satisfy the patriarchy…you’re right.
If you recognize the massive injustice done to women…you’re right.
If you believe emotions should be processed…you’re right.
If you believe connecting to your shadow/inner child is key to your growth… you’re right.
If you believe having a band of sisters beside you as you transform into your authentic self will make the process easier and more enjoyable…you’re right!
Come to process, heal, share, listen, support.
Come to move, express, connect, rest, grow.
Come be curious, present, playful, creative.
Come reclaim yourself.
My Specialty
Religious & Patriarchal Deconstruction
As a former Mormon, I have learned how crucial it is to my growth that I deconstruct the religious and patriarchal beliefs I was given as a child. Patriarchal and religious beliefs like “Women are less than men,” are traumatizing and flat out wrong. If you grew up a woman, you’re dealing with deconstructing the patriarchy even if you don’t realize it. If you’re formerly religious, you’re dealing with faith deconstruction and religious trauma. These beliefs get extra attention from me, as they are particularly damaging and take more time to fully extricate. But when these beliefs are bravely examined and uprooted, profound change happens.
Religious Trauma is very real, and very damaging, if left unaddressed. It results in anxiety, depression, decision-making difficulty, lack of self-worth and self-esteem, lack of purpose and meaning in life, and much more. It is not an area we can ignore and still except to heal, grow, and thrive. That’s why I’m here. To lovingly open your eyes and help you connect with the true you, behind the programming and indoctrination.
Have A question?
Not ready for circle?
Not ready to speak in a group, yet? I understand. If you’re interested in 1-on-1 space holding, where you are held in a safe, virtual space with just myself, click the button below!