Reclaim Play

Reclaim Curiosity

Reclaim Rest

Reclaim Expression

Rise from the Lies 

Reclaim the Real You

Rise

with Me

Most of us will never question our beliefs, our habits, our personality. Most of us live unconsciously, the survival tactics learned as children continuing to run the show, despite them causing us more harm than good. Whether from society, the patriarchy, religion, or unconscious parenting, the programming goes deep. Yet we can awaken, rise from these lies, and live as conscious, capable adults.

Remember

with Me

Part of becoming conscious is embracing what was condemned by those “in charge”. Whether by our parents, our religion, or society as a whole, so much of what makes us human we were told was bad. This includes play, self-love, rest, as well as connection to our bodies and to nature. To truly thrive as conscious adults, we must remember what we need as humans to be content and fulfilled. 

Reclaim

with Me

Awareness gets us nowhere without action. Once we rise from the lies, and rediscover what it means to be human, we then must use this knowledge to welcome the parts that have been abandoned. We must process our pain, plant new, empowering beliefs, develop habits that support those beliefs, and dedicate ourselves fully to reclaiming our curious, confident, present, and loving core self.

 

Hi! I’m Shelby.

And I was lied to.

(And you may have been too.)

About My Worth & Purpose

They told me my worth lied in my purity, my beauty, and my productivity. I could always be better. There was no time for play or rest. Failure was to be avoided at all costs. I would never be enough, could never do enough. Even upon my death, judgement awaited.

About My Body & Sexuality

They said my body was “sinful,” a temptation, distinct from the “self.” It was something I would never understand. My sexuality was either meant for others or non-existent. I ought to control and suppress all of it, and trust the experts over myself on what is best for it.

About Nature & The Cosmos

They said I was separate from nature, above it, and encouraged me to utilize it for my use. They told me the world was small, and humans were the pinnacle of life, even confining God to a once-human (male, btw). They placed God outside of nature, the Cosmos, and myself.

I’m Choosing A different path

I’m Choosing A different path

Playful

Over perfection

Curious

Over FEARFUL

Rested

Over productive

Expressed

Over Repressed

Because it turns out… I’m made of

STARDUST

(And so are you!)

 

Because it turns out…I’m made of

STARDUST

(And so are you!)

 

Enough Dogma.

Just Remembering. ReConnecting. Reclaiming.

Reconnecting to the Inner Child

We can give ourselves what we ought to have had as children, and what we still unconsciously still seek as adults.  By becoming the parent we needed, and listening with curiosity to what our inner child tells us, we can strive to understand them and how they influence our daily thoughts, behaviors, ambitions and beyond. We can remember how to play passionately and laugh heartily, without thought of productivity, and we can reclaim regular emotional expression though any medium we like, such as dance, art, writing, and music.  By exploring our many layers, the conditioning and wounds, the programming and limiting religious dogma, we can discover who we truly are and what we truly need. And what we need is love. If we can provide what we need to feel loved, and essentially safe, we can begin chipping away at the survival masks we wear and step into our truest, most authentic selves. 

Reconnecting to Nature

We are not as separate from nature as most organizations would have you believe. Sadly, this severed connection traps us in a separative, human-only and human-first, concept of life. Leaving us racing to a finish line that never comes, competing with each other for reasons unknown, and living to consume. By reclaiming this connection our ancestors once had with nature, we return to simple truths we once knew. We can remember the healing powers of plants, the calming influence of walking barefoot, and the loving influence of animals. By reconnecting to the cycles of the year and moon, we can embrace each season in our own lives. We are able to reclaim phases of growth and rest, as reflected in all of nature. And above all, by reconnecting to nature, we are reminded that we are enough; there is nothing that will influence our innate worth. In nature, we are reminded that we can just be. 

Reconnecting to Nature

There is no “one way”

to process trauma, overcome depression, treat anxiety, or find contentment in life.

There are many. And they are  practices – not cures.

These are my paths based on my journey and needs.  I hope they help you on yours.

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